This is my idea on , am i right or completely wrong?

i wouldn't necessarily go that far. Obviously you're coming from a "no before marriage" viewpoint, so I'm uming you haven't yet actually had . Though I think having with someone does sometimes create a feeling of connection that you wouldn't have had otherwise, I believe that as you mature (hopefully), and IF you can make yourself disconnect from that delusion, it is possible to find the person that you not only have great with, but also actually love. Both mental and ual connections are important for a happy relationship. I always say "you wouldn't buy a car before a test drive" and i think that it really isn't that smart to say "forever" with someone if you don't know if you have a sexual connection yet. I get where you're coming from with the ogy of sex being like a drug, but I think that's only if you don't have control over it. Just like people become addicted to drugs and ruin their life, I think some people get carried away with sex and let it destroy their chance for happiness as well. I think there are lots of people in the world who are happily married, but have had sex with more than one person in their life. The divorce rate probably has more to do with the selfishness of humans and the lack of realistic expectations of marriage, than people having sex before they were married.